Online dating is no longer for the hermits that live in their parent’s basements. There are even specialty sites for people that make over a hundred thousand dollars a year, people that are just looking for sex, and people that only date within their religious affiliations. With all of these sites beaming themselves to you, you have a lot of variety in the type of woman that you would like to date. But like the real world, there are a lot of different rules that must be followed in order to keep that woman on the bandwagon.
1) Keep Things Brief
When you’re chatting with your potential date on IM or even through email, you need to keep things brief. Don’t go into a whole ordeal about how you love spaghetti but can’t stand pene. She doesn’t care. Women like to use mean as soundboards, even if it is online. She wants to talk about herself. She wants to talk about what she does for a living, what her hopes and dreams are, and what she is looking for in a man. Women love to be treated like an actress on the red carpet. Keep your answers concise, but effective and make her talk.
2) Keep The Dirty Talk To A Minimum
Obviously, this is a no-brainer, but some men don’t listen and will still break this rule right out of the gate. You’ve never met this person. You don’t even know if you like them! Why are you going to start asking them what their favorite position is? Yes, sexual compatibility is very important in a relationship, but you probably wouldn’t ask them that kind of question if you were talking to them in a bar, would you? If you would, then bravo, you have bigger stones than me.
3) Don’t Embellish Anything
I know, it’s very easy and it would really impress her if you were the CEO of an internet marketing company. But what are you going to do when she finds out that you work at McDonalds? Don’t embellish your job, your living situation, your height or your looks. You are who you are, and if that’s not enough for her then she’s not worth it in the first place.
4) Don’t Be Needy!
The key to looking cool and collected is by appearing as if you don’t need something, but would like for it to happen. If it doesn’t, then that’s cool too. Sending off a thousand IMs or emails doesn’t give off that impression. A rule I like to use is only reply after the woman has replied. When you send off your email, leave an open question at the end so they have a reason to respond back to you.
5) Don’t Find Yourself Overwhelmed
All right, this one is going to sound very strange, but bear with me. If you are yourself and post a detailed profile, you’re going to probably have a lot of women sending your messages. Remember that you don’t have to respond to all of them. Just because they’re interested in you doesn’t mean that you’re actually going to date them. Ask yourself if you can see yourself with that girl. If the answer is yes, then respond. This may sound ridiculous, but a lot of guys find themselves settling on the first couple of girls that send them messages. Don’t find yourself overwhelmed because you’re juggling thirty women. Take your time and weed out the ones you know you don’t have a future with.