How to Deal With Big, Bad Bullies at Different Stages of Our Lives?

A bully will always try to put you down, often with an aggressive tone of voice. Bullies pinpoint your shortcomings with the aim of making you look inferior to them. They also use sarcasm and anger skillfully as tools to manipulate you. Their criticism often has a destructive intent.”

Bullying is when someone keeps doing or saying things to have power over another person.
Some of the ways they bully other people are by: calling them names, saying or writing nasty things about them, leaving them out of activities, not talking to them, threatening them, making them feel uncomfortable or scared, taking or damaging their things, hitting or kicking them, or making them do things they don’t want to do.

Have any of these things happened to you? Have you done any of these things to someone else? Really, bullying is wrong behaviour which makes the person being bullied feel afraid or uncomfortable. What are the other signs to recognise a bullying situation?, The people with over-strong opinions can be bullies. “Some people who pursue their point of view till the end and insist that the other person change his or her opinion can also be perceived as bullies. Or, if the other person insists that you do something that you’re uncomfortable with, then that can also turn out to be a bullying situation.”

It is usually advisable to maintain your distance from a bully. However, there are sometimes cases especially when the bully is within the family that it’s impossible to get away. “In that case don’t get dragged into their web of negativity by believing what they say. Work on your inner positive self with positive self-talk and simultaneously try and associate with positive people who lift your sense of self esteem.  It’s mandatory to communicate your hurt to the person who’s bullying you. “Don’t be submissive and passive but try and display confidence instead.”

 Learning a sport or doing yoga helps one become physically fitter and gives one a sense of well-being. When one is fearful of a bully, that’s also a sign that one needs to know oneself better. Work on your inner self.

 Learning meditation can help in such a situation by calming the mind and advises self-reflection as well. Bllies try to provoke anger in their victims, so one’s threshold of anger needs to be monitored in a way that best suits one. Conclude, “Above all, if you’re caught up in a bullying situation or in the angry mode, go away from the spot and don’t get into any arguments with the bully. That you need to avoid physical abuse is paramount and goes without saying.”